Being the slut that I am, I’ve visited many houses and bedrooms on my quest to hookup with cute people. The need for good dick has taken me to mansion-like estates, dorm rooms, student houses, and artsy apartments; residence size doesn’t matter to me. However, one thing that does matter when I go to someone’s place is that I need to feel comfortable. Over the years, I’ve noticed ways in which some of my sex partners have made me feel happy and at home while staying over. I try to do the same for when I have hookups visiting my house as well; I like to make my visitors feel slightly pampered while they’re staying chez Suz.
My accommodating hookups haven’t been in the majority of sexual experiences, but they are the ones that stand out. More people should be satisfying even the most casual of sex partners in ways that go beyond genital stimulation. Here are some simple practices and domestic preparations that can help make your fuck buddy feel like royalty.
Tidy your room. Walking into a hookups room to find it dirty and messy isn’t going to help set the mood. Even if you have a few minutes to spare before having someone over, clean up the spare dishes, open a window, and at least lay your comforter flat on your bed. Don’t forget to tidy the bathroom as well and have toilet paper available.
Wash your sheets. If you know well in advance that you’ll be having a sex partner over, take some time to wash your sheets if you haven’t in awhile. Not only will it make your bed super cozy, but your hookup will appreciate the freshly laundered scent as they’re banged into the bed.
Offer a drink or a smoke. I always appreciate it when a suitor asks if I’d like a drink or a smoke while we’re hanging out. Offer what you normally indulge in, and base your offer on previous conversations. If you asked your person over to have a drink, ya best make them a drink. A recent hookup of mine had some pop ready for me by the hot tub, with ice in a separate glass so it wouldn’t water down the drink. It was a small gesture but made me feel appreciated and cared for.
Have a phone charger prepared. As an android girl, I’ve run into plenty of situations where my phone charger doesn’t work with my sex pal’s phone. Because of this, I like to keep a spare iPhone cord in my bedside table, just in case a hookup’s iPhone runs out of battery. Whenever I pull it out for someone, I can see the sigh of relief on their face, knowing they can charge up before heading home.
Check in. I cannot stress enough how important it is to check in before, during and after sexy times with your partner, especially if you’re not too familiar with the person you’re boning. You don’t necessarily have to make a Yes/No/Maybe list, but you can always ask simple questions to make sure you’re not overstepping. If you’re hanging out in the living room and want to start initiating, asking something along the lines of “Would you like to go to the bedroom and lay down?” Or, if you’re want to start touching a partner while making out, ask “Is this okay?” Even just small acknowledgments of consent can make your hookup feel like they can comfortably voice their needs to you.
Provide various safe sex barriers. I bring condoms with me everywhere, but not everyone might be as prepared for hookups and sex sessions. Even when you use an adult dating sites, like mysexhookups.com/fuck-buddy, you can’t always rely on other people to provide protection. Having a container of condoms, lube, and dental dams can help you and your fuck buddy be protected. Nothing is worse than being in the heat of the moment and having to drag yourselves out of bed to go to the convenience store. I have a little tray on my bedside table with options for various partners to choose from. Bonus points if you can provide options like various sizes, internal condoms, lubricated, non-lubricated, latex free and vegan.
Offer water. Sex can be dehydrating! Ask if your hookup wants a cup of water, so that they can recover from the draining sex and/or fuel up before another round of banging.
Offer shower and a towel. After sex, I usually end up sweaty, tangled in messy hair and, occasionally have makeup smeared across my face. I’m not a huge fan of leaving a hookup’s house looking like I was just mauled by a bunch of dicks, so being offered a chance to clean up is always welcome. An offer for a quick shower and a clean towel will make my day, and make me feel welcome at your place. Even if we don’t see each other again, it provides a cherry on top of my visit.
Discuss waking up. If the decision is made that a sleepover will take place, it’s helpful to discuss what the morning after will look like. If you or your sex bud need to get up early, decide on a decent time to wake up and set alarms accordingly. Want to get breakfast with your partner? Ask them if they would be down to join you. When everyone knows what to expect when daylight hits, they’ll immediately feel more restful.
Call them a ride home. If a sleepover isn’t taking place, calling your sexual partner a ride home is a simple but effective measure to make sure your partner gets home safely.
When I am with partners who do small non-sexual gestures to make me happy, it makes me want to come back to their place. I’d rather be with a partner who was aware and prepared for my various needs, even if it’s just for one night. Casual sex can be comfortable and accommodating too.
Just so ya know, this post is sponsored, but, as always, all writing and opinions are my own.