Erotic massages have been one of my favourite fantasies since I was going through puberty. The combination of relaxation and intimacy, with the focus being on womxn’s pleasure, were huge turn-ons for me when I watched erotic massage porn. Getting an erotic massage is still on my fucket list actually: I haven’t had the chance to go to hire an erotic masseuse yet.
One of the reasons I haven’t hired an erotic massage yet is because so many local massage parlours are focused on cishet men, which has made me aware how normalized it is for cis men to seek out erotic massages, whereas it’s a more stigmatized activity for women and people with vulvas. BUT everyone deserves the right to erotic massages! So today, I’m writing about five reasons to get an erotic massage if you have a vulva.
De-stress
Massages, in general, are some of the best ways to destress (if you like being touched). As an overworked Canadian student, I feel the sources of my stress in my body. When I’m stressed, my back knots up quicker than a rigger with some new rope. Getting an erotic massage not only allows me to melt under a masseuse’s strong but sensual hands, but I can destress through genital contact as well. Masturbation and orgasms are one of the best ways for me to clear my head, so letting a professional rub me down would do wonders for my stress.
Focus on your own pleasure
If you normally don’t masturbate or are able to give yourself orgasms, letting a professional focus on your pleasure can be really enjoyable. Erotic masseuses can help you discover new ways to touch your body and new ways to orgasm. Some sex therapists are skilled in bodywork, an erotic massage based therapy technique that aids in helping people of all genders heal through trauma, become comfortable in their body, increase sensuality and to become more orgasmic. Erotic massage can also be great if you have a partner who isn’t super reciprocal in the bedroom. Masseuses, like those on Xmassage – Sensual Massage Directory London & UK, can aid you in finding out your erotic likes and dislikes with full attention turned on you, which can help you communicate your needs to your partner.
Explore your sexuality
When I was first getting into fantasizing about erotic massage, it ended up being the gateway fantasy for my queerness. I always imagined going to get a massage by a pretty lady and having it end up with her getting me off with her hands. Going to an erotic masseuse appealed to me as a way to dip toes into exploring my sexuality because they are low-pressure, done in a controlled environment and aren’t overwhelming. You can just lay back and enjoy without worrying about reciprocation, which can help if you’re new to sexual activity in general or sex with women.
Treat yo self
I honestly can’t think of a better way to spend money on myself than a massage and an orgasm. Being rubbed down in oil, followed by an experienced set of hands massaging your genitals is a luxury you deserve!
Bond with your partner
Erotic massages don’t have to be done alone! Actually, a lot of massage directories, like Erotic Massage London, have masseuses that offer couples massages so that you and your partner can get pampered together. Not only is going for an erotic couples massage relaxing, but it could be a sexy new experience for the both of you, and a way to indulge in a fantasy with other people, while not getting any complicated feelings involved. I’ve actually read stories on the r/gonewildstories subreddit about couples being inspired by their amazing experiences having erotic massages together.
Why would you want to get an erotic massage?
This post was sponsored! As always, all opinions and writing are my own.