CN: ddlg, breakups, not really a review review
The Quickshot Vantage had been THE top toy on my wishlist since I found out about its existence during my first year of sex blogging. The handheld, translucent double ended tunnel of texture has taunted me for years; looked down at me from passing social media promotions or reviews from other bloggers. It’s $35 though, right? Why couldn’t I just buy it or get one of my fave companies to send it to me? Well, as you may have guessed the Quickshot Vantage is meant for people with penises*, so if I wanted to review it here, I would probably need a participating penis to use it with. That’s why the Vantage been stuck on my wishlist for this long; I don’t do guest or couples reviews.
While I’ve had my fair plenty of dick options passing through my life in the past couple of years, doing a review with someone requires some trust I’m not just going to dole out to anyone. Are you able to express your feelings about the toy beyond “It’s great!”? Do I want to talk about you on my blog? Will you not abandon our relationship before completing the tests and opinions? The latter is my main issue; I have abandonment issues and I’m not about to let a shitty dude ruin our relationship and a review.
So why did I want the Quickshot Vantage, a sex toy that doesn’t really do much for my own anatomy, so badly? Well, friends, let me tell you! The Quickshot Vantage is a clear masturbation sleeve with two open ends, much like a thicker doughnut. The hole in the middle is what gets me going; I saw the Vantage used in amateur porn on Reddit and since then I was obsessed. The penetrable can be used solo, where the person can stick their penis through it to be caressed on their shaft or head. Ughh the way I’m able to see dicks through the other side of the plastic and TPR makes me so turned on. It can also be used with partners, to be a great companion tool for a blowjob. I’d fantasize about using the Quickshot Vantage in tandem with my mouth, milking a cock quickly to orgasm. It’s a sexy looking toy, and from friend’s accounts, it feels just as good as it seems, so of course, I would want it to use with a partner.
During the summer, I was six months into fucking someone who I really liked, and who liked me back. He was my Daddy, I was his babygirl; a dynamic I no longer just jump into with just anyone. We had a connection that superseded my own knowledge of trust and communication within relationships. While we didn’t see each other often, he was someone I really treasured. And we had the hottest sex. With time and admiration on my side, I figured it was the right moment to request the Quickshot Vantage for review. I finally had someone I could trust to complete a review with me. Or so I thought.
We used the Quickshot Vantage once.
I was giddy with delight when I got it in the mail, and patiently waited the next time he was to come over. I greeted him at the door like I always do, immediately falling into a kiss before I grabbed his hand and pulled him inside. We caught up as he put down his backpack and phone while I waited on the bed for him to come continue kissing me. Things quickly heated up (we could never keep our hands off each other for long) and soon I was back in the coziest of subspaces with him holding me there. During a blowjob later into our time together, I asked him if we could try the Vantage. He eagerly agreed, and I brought it out and lowered it onto his awaiting cock. Stroking first with my hand, and then eventually adding my mouth. The Quickshot Vantage worked as a perfect extension of my sucking skills, allowing me to fully surround his penis with pressure. I can deepthroat, but this toy made it easy to achieve that “deepthroatable” feeling for him. He had nothing but compliments about the toy, but we abandoned it as we continued on with fucking; left for another day to review.
As it might be obvious, that day never came. While we did see each other after our first session with it, the Vantage was never used due to logistics (I went to his house and didn’t bring it) or us just wanting to enjoy our time together. Around a month ago, I expressed my need to see my Daddy more, and what I got in return was a confusing message, implying that he was struggling with his mental health, but not specifying his needs with our relationship moving forward. I send him a message telling him that I would like to talk, but also recognize the need to respect his space. I received silence for a week, followed by purposefully vague messages after I tried to follow up. The last messages I sent him were “Are you doing ok?” and “Are you just going to ignore my messages?” That was two weeks ago and he still hasn’t opened them.
I’ve been through my fair share of ghosting, or zombie-ing situations, but this one hurt in a different kind of way. We had gone through a couple issues this year where we really needed to flex our communication skills, so I thought if the day were to come when we wouldn’t be seeing each other any more, it would be done in a respectful way. I guess my mediocre hopes were a little too high for this man. Not to mention, kink relationships should be treated delicately when it comes to breakups – being suddenly pulled away from a dynamic is hard to deal. I’m sad, Y’all.
The compact Fleshlight sleeve currently sits on my desk, taunting me like it did when I looked at it on my wishlist. It’s a good toy, and it really didn’t deserve its one-time-use fate. From the feedback I received on his end, it felt amazing, and from my side, it was incredible to use on him. The expectations I had of the Quickshot Vantage were exceeded; unlike the gentleman I used it on.
Thanks to Spectrum Boutique for sending me the Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage to review, and for putting up with this emotional persective of the toy! You can get the toy from them for $35 USD!